7 Rules to Contentment

I have seven rules here that will reach out many people in the world and will lead them to contentment. These may be hard for some but I always believe that if you think you can do something, you will certainly achieve it.

7 rules for you:

1. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

To be honest, this is a never-ending issue. I don't know and I'm not sure where it started but surely, this is a big deal for most of us. How can you make peace with your past if your issues were not resolved? How can you talk to him/her if you were hurt? This is not a joke and it is one of those things that are very hard to do. Some would ask, “Why would I make the first move if I was the aggrieved party?” But we must also remember that if we are still enslaved by our past, how can we move on? We must do something to prevent that from happening. And the first step to that is to resolve issues with our past regardless of the implications. It does not necessarily mean that you are still affected with your past but the right thing to do to avoid problems in the future is to deal with those issues courageously. I know how hard it is because I've been there. But believe me, you will feel good afterwards when you know that you can continue living without thinking of any issues unresolved.

2. What other people think of you is none of your business.

I used to be a person who thinks too much about what other people will say about me. I even came to a point that I felt very down thinking that I disappointed those people around me whom I know have high expectations towards me. But I woke up! I realized that if I always think that way, I won't ever grow. I will just remain inside my shell. I even realized that if I do want to grow, I should set my own goals and not those goals other people have for me. After those realizations, I know that I became a better person. I even moved another step to reaching success.

3. Time heals almost everything, give time.

I am not sure whether to believe this statement or not. But one thing is for sure, you must practice patience. Everytime we experience pain and loss, we are given time to experience everything. We have time to deal with the pain and we also have time to decide what to do next with our life.

4. No one is in charge of your happiness.

There are people who depend their happiness on other people most especially their loved ones. But we must think of this: we are the ones who create our problems and even our miseries and we are also the ones who know the way to our happiness. We know what can make us happy and we must do everything to achieve that. Bear in mind that no one can dictate us what to do. As long as we know that we are not affecting anyone by our actions, just go! Go and reach our goals to success.

5. Don't compare your life to others and don’t judge them...you have no idea what their journey is all about.

Our God has plan for us. We may experience pain and trouble right now but we should realize that we have a different life among other people. So don't ever feel gloomy or don't envy those people who have a luxurious or happy life. We don't know what they are experiencing. We don't have any right to judge them and don't ever think of judging them so we won't be judged. We have our own problems to face so we should not waste any single minute of thinking how blessed other people are for we are all blessed by God. We have a unique life that others don't possess so we must always be thankful with what we have.

6. Stop thinking too much, it’s alright not to know the answers...they will come to you when you least expect it.

I am very guilty about this. I am a kind of person who thinks too much but now I learned my mistakes. I didn't do me any good. It just made my life miserable. I should never forget that God has a plan for me and I know that things will fall into place that way He planned it in His right time. I should just practice patience more and wait for His miraculous ways.

7. Smile - you don't own all the problems in the world.

I am not sure about this but they say that for every time we are frowning, 37 muscles are being used. But only a portion of those muscles are used when we smile. Lesson: it is not hard to smile! It will do us a lot of good things. Remember that whenever we smile, it can make us look and feel good and young. In addition to that, I believe that when we smile, it can attract positive energy which we need to possess a positive outlook in life. So we should start practicing now.

Some say that people never run out of problems. It is true. I will definitely agree on that. But we must also remember that if we will just look always on the brighter side of the picture, we can have a happy life. We are happy in such a way that we are contented. Contented that even if we don't have everything we have, we know that we have everything we need. God will surely never forget to bless us with our need so learn to appreciate and value everything we possess.